Sharing a well-written perspective on real love in a relationship.
We (especially girls) grow up thinking that love and relationships will be like a fairy tale, happily ever after, two people staying madly in love with each other for life. But the reality is, no matter how good a match you are, those initial, wild passionate, feelings fade away. The passion can still remain, but some effort is required to maintain the love. After all, a relationship is a partnership between two imperfect individuals who have been brought together to learn from and support each other. A relationship is a union between two best friends. Learning can be hard at times, but you have a choice over how fun the journey will be. It only depends on your perspective -- do you see difficult times as challenges and growth spurts, or as suffering?
True deep love is one that is accepting, understanding and supportive, knowing that the other person is only human and wishing the best for them no matter what. True love is selfless; you look after the other person's needs as much as you look after you own. The best love you can offer a relationship originates from one where you fully love yourself, because only when you love yourself, can you truly love another. And because you are full of love from yourself, love comes easily for another, there is no effort required. This union becomes one of two people standing hand in hand looking out to the future together, instead of two individuals seeking another to complete his/herself. Just as the Dalai Lama says, "Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other." Such wise words.