Friday, 30 January 2015

Trust in yourself

Most of the time, when we are afraid of failure, afraid of other people judging/blaming us, or rely on someone else to 'save' us, it is because we do not believe in our own abilities to do the right thing. Fear of judgement comes from judging yourself, for either your inability to have done the 'right thing' in the past, from thinking that you will be held responsible for your missteps or mistakes. But how would wallowing in self-blame or fear improve the situation? Remember that you had always been doing your best, with what you knew and what you had. Even if you had been lazy, or acted out of fear, it is never too late to make amends. Just brush yourself off and try again. You don't have to live forever in the situation that makes you feel bad. You don't have to hold on to that 'comfort zone'. Forgive yourself for what you are scared of, or blaming yourself for (for not knowing 'enough', for not doing 'enough', etc.). No one is perfect. Give yourself what you deserve -- self-love. What matters is that you try, and learn, and try again. 
When you realize that you do have the ability to come up with a solution, withstand hardship, or allow yourself to learn what you need to overcome the difficulty (and ask for help when need be), the fears will go away. When you act out of love (which is the absence of fear, and which is what courage is made of), that is when you start taking true responsibility for your life and making life happen. 
Trust in yourself. You can do so much more. =)

Tuesday, 13 January 2015

The meaning of life

What is the meaning of life?
Living life itself.
What is life?
Love in its purest form.
What is love?
That which already lies within.
What lies within?
What your natural state of being is.
What is your natural state of being?
That which does not require anything to be what it is not already truly is. That which lets be.

Can it be that simple?
That's where the real fun begins =)

Monday, 12 January 2015

Courage, Freedom and Happiness

I have learnt that the path to happiness is freedom from fear. The path to freedom from fear is the realization that fear is just a mind-made energy form that you somehow chose to carry around with you.* The path to freedom from fear is to not be afraid of fear, nor to judge yourself for the fear. When you can find the courage and love inside your heart to face the fear, reflect and become aware of what you are really afraid of. Is that worry or concern real or made-up? Can you do something about it? If it's not real, can you forgive yourself for that fear? Even if it's real, does being afraid empower you or incapacitate you?
When you are ready, find the love in your heart for yourself to forgive yourself for whatever you were afraid of, to forgive yourself for having that fear, to accept the healing, you open up a space inside your soul for love to come in to correct that fear. You don't have to do anything else. Positive affirmations may be helpful to keep your strength as you prepare yourself for this forgiveness process, but are not necessary for healing. Just sit quietly, while bringing awareness, compassion, love and space in to accept the healing and correction, and the true source of love** inside your soul will do the rest. The peace you will feel afterward is so profound. 
Sounds like a miracle? Well, it is! Spoken from experience by someone who was an expert at running away from fear, stuffing away emotions and thoughts that scared me  =)
Give it a try =) Start with the small fears, and then move up to the big ones! I hope you find the release from whatever you are afraid of. 
Remember, light triumphs over darkness. Love triumphs over fear. What is unreal (which is what fear is), cannot last under the revealing of what is real (which is love). Find the courage to let love in. Let your inner wisdom guide you to see what is real. When you are healed, you may not even remember what it was that you were afraid of in the first place. 

A word of caution though. When you are healed and knowing, it might be a scary place to be at first. Because, from your place of knowing, you have a choice of acting consciously versus unconsciously (as opposed to before, where you did not, having been taken over by the ego and were acting unconsciously). The possibilities are limitless, you are that powerful. 
But would you rather be conscious or unconscious? I think I would rather the former. 
Let's strive to act with love, not fear. The world will become a much better place this way.

*It's OK, it's only human. Sometimes we keep things we are afraid of at bay but at the back of our minds, unable to let go. It's a paradox of the ego. Don't judge yourself for it.
** True love has no opposite. True love is accepting, compassionate, forgiving and merciful. True love forgives you for everything you might have done 'wrong', for how can you do wrong about something that you don't know? This is the source of healing. 

p.s. "A Course in Miracles", Eckhart Tolle, Christine Arylo and Katarina Phang helped me come to this realization.

Sunday, 4 January 2015

Did you know?

Psst! Here's a secret...
Did you know... that you are loved by many people, and that you are the source of love for them too?
You shine your light on so many people's lives, and you make the world a more wonderful place.
So never stop loving yourself, never stop taking care of yourself. Never believe that little voice in your head that says you don't matter. Because you do.
You matter so much.
And the greatest gift you can give to the world is YOU. And it starts with loving yourself. =)
Happy Sunday!

Friday, 2 January 2015

Let love be your message [Part 2]

I posted a quote from Charles Dickens some time back, 
"Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts."

Recently, I came across this article that elaborates on this principle of love. I hope it can help you find your way back to love, so that love can become the message you bring to yourself and the world. Because, at the end of the day, the only thing that remains is that you were born out of love, created by love, and brought to the world as a deliverer of love.
Happy Friday!